Liang Shiqiu said: my so-called loneliness is that I get it by chance. I don‘t need to ask for it. I don’t think it‘s too short to realize it in a moment. I don’t need to be disappointed if I lose it. But I have a moment of loneliness, I want to enjoy it.notes preceding the text of a book or following the title of an articleA person with good interpersonal relationship will not feel lonely.
That is to say, the reason why a person feels lonely is usually not that his popularity is not bad, but that he may have some defects in his personality, which will make him feel lonely. After growing up, the so-called enjoy loneliness, eat loneliness, but also sarcastic witticism of others. So for a long time, the definition of loneliness is mostly negative, mostly negative understanding more than positive understanding. I always think that as long as people are physically and mentally healthy, they should not be related to loneliness.Because of such a deep misunderstanding of loneliness, I didn‘t like being alone since I was young, and I didn’t want to be a problem child in the eyes of others. So no matter what I do, I like to join hands and act together.
However, with the growth of age, the children‘s playmates gradually divided things, and the number of collective actions in childhood also decreased a lot unconsciously, while a person spent more and more time alone.Loneliness, in fact, is not exactly as negative and pitiful as ordinary people think, it also has a positive side. I used to be so afraid of loneliness that I would be forgotten by the world for a long time. In fact, when you are alone, it should be the time when you are closest to yourself in mind. There is no external concern and interference, and there is no intrigue between people. At this time, everyone can take off his mask and face himself truly and freely.Especially in this world where everything seems to be pushed fast forward, many people are often too busy to have time for themselves. They circle around the endless hometown like a top every day. More and more pressure in my heart, but more and more can not get the appropriate vent, so that I live more and more depressed, more and more decadent. If we can occasionally set aside a little time for ourselves, let ourselves temporarily away from the annoying right and wrong, let the chaotic thoughts have the chance to precipitate, even in a few minutes, I believe it is very helpful.This reminds me of an old man Rousseau who left his lonely figure in the Champs Elysees, in the forest of Fontainebleau, in the grass on the outskirts of Paris.
Almost all people think he has no style. In the face of loneliness, he was immersed in the charming meditation of lonely walking. So he was very busy in the leisurely loneliness. He used the fire of solitude to light up the rest of his life and ignite it, leaving behind a masterpiece “the reverie of walking alone”.Some people say that a person has a lot of time in his life with loneliness. Everyone comes to the world alone and finally leaves alone. It’s impossible for a person to be accompanied every minute of his life. Even if the ordinary life is active, there will be times when he is alone. Loneliness is an integral part of our life, and everyone can‘t escape it. Since it can’t escape, why not face it positively?Life is full of joys and sorrows. When we are happy, we hope that others can share happiness together. Similarly, when we want to be alone quietly, it is also a kind of happiness? Zhu Ziqing said that the bustle is their, I have nothing, so lonely is the real despair.Loneliness does not mean silence; no inner activity is the real numbness of life.
Once in a while, let yourself be alone, let go of your soul, do what you want to do, even if you have a daydream, what‘s wrong?
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